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Hello, can you please ask your readers my question, i need help with this.
I'm seeing someone, he's sweet, has a great career and i am completely in love with him. We've been dating for a while now and since the beginning he has said he doesn't like it when i wear makeup, put in extensions or sleep with my silk head scarf.
Now the thing is i don't even wear a lot of makeup, mostly eye liner and very light powder. I wear extensions sometimes but he kept on complaining about my weave, he likes completely natural girls and he says i'm beautiful without all of that. So at first i said fine and i stopped wearing makeup as much and stopped wearing weaves all together but the thing is i have relaxed hair and anytime i go to the hair salon i have to wrap my hair and sometimes i like to leave my scarf on when i'm at home relaxing, chilling you know. Well that turned out to be a problem with him because he hates when women wrap their hair, i tried a silk pillowcase but i prefer scarves.
It's annoying because what he wants is some natural girl who doesn't wear weave, make up or wrap her hair but I love wearing makeup and sometimes i like wearing my weaves and i am not about to give up my head wrap, he doesn't understand that i have to do all of this to look good for him. He loves when my hair looks nice and bouncy but if i don't wrap my hair at night it's going to be a hot mess the next day. He said he doesn't date women who wear scarves to bed and i have "good hair" i don't need it.
He is such a good guy, I know he only wants me to be myself, he never puts me down and he has made me discover my natural beauty. But i'm starting to believe he is trying to change me into this "wife" image he has and problem is i like myself as i am, i don't see a big deal in wearing a little eye liner and extensions to enhance my beauty. What should i do? Am i being too shallow? Should i throw out my makeup and stop wrapping my hair around him? or is it time to reevaluate our relationship?
Please help me with any advice you have.Guys what do you think.