Thursday 8 September 2011

WHAT SHOULD SHE DO?

Someone sent me this and asked to put it up

My sister's husband slapped her 2 days ago! they have been married 3 1/2yrs and in all this time, he has never hit her before.i dont know what would have made him act that way cos what my sister told me wasnt enuf to deserve being hit IMO (he saw her ex in her bb contacts and they started arguing about why she would want to be friends with her ex and all that kind of stuff, then 'gbam' slap land for cheek). i've heard that once a man beats a woman once, he is very likely to do it again and again and in this time of so many gory tales of physical abuse gone bad, i am scared for her oo. what do u think she should do?

Hmmmm

14 comments:

Nigeria's Safest House... said...

Is there anything that is a slappable offense in a marriage? I doubt it.

She should have a talk with him and of course, and make it clear that such is unacceptable when it comes to the stability and longevity of the marriage. Both parties should also remove their exes from their BBs.

Of course, she should also get one of the bigger men in the family to slap him, so he'll know wassup.

yewie said...

hnmm, though one cause he doesnt sound like the wife beater type, its either he is and he just started showing his true self or it was a one-off event induced mt jealousy,fear nd insecurity. basically they should talk, and have a long convo. but if he tries it again, well thats another story. physical abuse aint acceptable

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm personally I feel if a man slaps you he will slap you again,na from clap e dey enter dance oh!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm this is very tricky oh! As he has not exhibited such trait before or is it that this is the 1st one ur sis is telling you about. Honestly I would pray bout it oh! Might not leave as its his 1st time but if he tries it again,na to do my own back then carry my load dey go oh before I turn into punching bag

Anonymous said...

3 years certainly in a marriage is not enough time to define individual plus and minuses.

if you say he slapped her 10years the marriage then l can conclude that it might not happen again.

anger is a very terrible thing, it can make you do what you don't want to do and it is easier to comment here than to manage it o.

the guys should apologize and am sure she can forgive.

another issue is; should your ex be your enemy or your fried? hme pls debate

lande said...

abeg thats how it starts oh! from slap na to beg then slap again then buy her gift. i feel she has made her decision and just wants re-assurance. Left up to me i dont think i would stay oh! a living rat is better than a dead lion

Anonymous said...

these days if you tell your girl friend, 'don't be silly, it is verbal abuse...if you guys don't talk in house for whole afternoon its emotional abuse, if you don't go to party together, it is abandonment, if you you slap her backass na physical abuse....

this marriage tin sef. na by force?

Anonymous said...

‎​She should delete d Ex from d BB after all her vexing after all she must allow peace 2 reign..

Anonymous said...

Huh for where,I would make sure he pays oh! B4 I move out oh. Once a man slaps you he doesn't stop like someone said na from clap e dey enter dance

Anonymous said...

I don't think her ex being on her bb should be such a big deal, are u sure that's all that happened.. But if this is his 1st time since they got married I think it was just a slip of hand,they can and should work it out oh! Don't end a good thing cuz of 1 slap

Anonymous said...

She shudnt have her ex bb ..... She is married now... If she sees her ex face to face, she shud say hi and it shud end der ..What wud her and her ex b discussing on bb ... He shudnt have slapped her but i guess he was just jealous and angry ... They an always tlk things out and get on wit der marriage

Priscy said...

he must have been swallowed up in jealousy to act that way. I think they should deal with it by having a heart to heart talk. And if he doesn't want her to have her ex's bb then I advice she shouldn't.

Anonymous said...

in the 1st place, what the hell is the husband looking at the wife's bb for?

because ur husband and wife does not mean you should be looking inside each others 'pants' every time you come back from work.

sometimes when ur looking for something that is not lost, what you will end up finding becomes what you are looking for.

Anonymous said...

Gbam anonymous 18:08 u took the words right out of me